[instiz] TO BE HONEST, IF I GIVE BIRTH, I DON’T WANT TO WORK ANYMORE

I grew up in a dual-income household and was an only child

Since middle school, I was always alone when I got home

I’d make my own meals or order food by myself, and my mom and dad would come home late, so I barely got to talk to them before going to sleep

Even now, both of them still work, so I think I’ve never really felt like I was being cared for

On their days off, if I asked for even a small favor because I wanted to feel looked after, they’d be busy catching up on chores and would just snap at me, telling me to take care of things myself

That’s why I was always so jealous of friends who had moms at home, and I really want to be there for my own child in a way I never had

1. I need to get a job

2. I also grew up in a dual-income house but I liked being alone. But all my friends have different opinions

3. I’m a man, and this is just my personal view on marriage. After having a child, I’d really like the mother to focus entirely on childcare for about five years, at least until the kid starts kindergarten. After that, we can both start working again. Until then, no matter what it takes, whether I succeed or struggle, I’ll work and provide for the family!

4. That’s why I’ve been the sole breadwinner until now, my child is 5 years old. Now that they’re saying they want to learn things like taekwondo or ballet, I’m planning to start a part-time job during the hours they’re at kindergarten to cover the cost of those classes

5. If you have a baby, it’s true. It’s so hard to make money lately that parents can’t help but both have jobs but it’s indeed damaging for the kid

6. So I asked my daughter, “Do you prefer it when mom is at home or like now, when I go to work?” When she was around 5 or 6, she said she liked it better when I was home. But now that she’s 7, she actually says she prefers that I go to work, because it means she can stay with her friends longer

7. I do feel that caring for the child until a certain age is better for them

8. Honestly, if I were financially comfortable, I’d just want to focus on taking care of my childㅋㅋ But since that’s hard to do, I guess we’ll have to be a dual-income household…ㅠㅠ

9. Wow f*ck, ever since I was young I loved it when my parents left for workㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ It was so fun

10. Agree.. I also want to have a kid but the reality will hit hardㅠ