[theqoo] AN UNNIE I KNOW JUST GOT MARRIED, BUT SHE SAID SHE COULDN’T BRING HER HUSBAND HOME BECAUSE SHE WAS ASHAMED OF HER HOUSE. CAN YOU UNDERSTAND HER???

“The husband’s family lives in a 30-pyeong apartment in Seoul, but that unnie’s family lives in a very old, dilapidated apartment in the countryside that is in the early 10-pyeong range, so she said it was embarrassing.

She said she told her parents to please move to a decent apartment, even if just for a short-term rental for three months, offering to pay the rent herself, saying that was the only way she could bring her fiance to meet them.

In the end, they didn’t move, and she brought her fiance to meet them when they gathered at a relative’s house during the holidays, and they got married. 

Does this make sense..?

After hearing this, I thought, “Wow, she must’ve really broke her parents’ hearts,” but when I told my mom, she said she felt bad for that unnie.

I was surprised that my reaction was different from hers.”

– Marrying like that makes me wonder if you’ll ever feel at peace.. I don’t get it 

– I can understand her… And our parents also lived in a small suburb house until we started talking about marriage, we moved to a new house ㅋㅋㅋ

– I can understand the daughter, but I don’t understand why the man would make her feel embarrassed 

– I don’t understand why you would marry someone who makes you feel like that. I can understand being embarrassed of your house but still… Do you need to go this far.. 

– From the parents’ perspective, of course they’ll pity their daughter. I bet they’ll feel like their own lack of competency brought their daughter here 

– So you’ll marry someone you can’t even talk about things like that with? 

> (OP) That’s what I thought of too 

1. They’re married, if you can’t even be open about things like that, you’re really expecting to live your life like that for the rest of your life? I don’t get it 

2. Since I’m putting myself in the shoes of the one doing the deceiving, I can understand it. If I thought of it from the perspective of the one being deceived, I probably wouldn’t get it

3. If it were me, I wouldn’t get married if I didn’t have the confidence to be open about something like that.

4. I do get it. It’s not about worrying that the husband wouldn’t understand, and it’s not like they were hiding their family’s financial situation either. Being open about your situation and showing your house are two different things… Even if you’ve already been open about your circumstances, you might still not want to show a shabby-looking home. And in reality, a lot of parents renovate their homes before their child’s future spouse comes over to meet them.

5. I understand it, but you can’t hide it forever, right? What are they going to do?

6. If you can’t invite someone over to that extent, it’s probably because the house isn’t just old but also not very clean, so I kind of get it. If it were just old, it might not matter much, but poor hygiene is a different issue… Living with a family that has different standards of cleanliness is really stressful. It’s not something that can be fixed quickly, so maybe they wanted to at least move somewhere cleaner and show that kind of life.

7. Parents really care about stuff like that. When I was in 11th grade, we rushed to move into an apartment. They said that having an apartment listed as your address on your ID would keep people from looking down on you as a girl…

8. They’re getting married without even knowing something like that?? How is that love? ㅋ I don’t get it

9. I get it. Even now that I’m married, I don’t go back to my parents’ house much, and when I do, I leave as quickly as possible

10. I understand her feelings, but I don’t understand why she decided to marry despite feeling like that