[theqoo] MY NUNA IS PRETTY AND HAS A GOOD JOB, BUT SHE ANNOUNCED SHE WON’T GET MARRIED

My family is just po~or. We’re somewhere around the lower-middle class.
My parents haven’t even started planning for retirement yet (thankfully, both are in their 50s).
I took student and living expense loans during college, and both my nuna and I did.
My nuna is 31, and after studying for a long time, she thankfully got a decent job at a public corporation last year.
When my nuna got the public corporation job, my parents quietly had high hopes for her, wishing she’d meet a good man and get married quickly.
Even I thought she was attractive and feminine, so I thought she would obviously get married.
But she now says she doesn’t want to get married.
We can’t get (monetary) support from our parents, and she’s still paying off loans.

She’s over 30, doesn’t have any savings, and my parents haven’t prepared for retirement.
There’s nothing to inherit either.
She says she doesn’t want to marry a man like her, and she doesn’t want to marry a man who’s better off either.

Then, she said something really seriously:
She said that it’s not that she doesn’t want to get married, it’s that she can’t. If the family had been more well-off, she would have married.
It wasn’t something she said out of anger, but calmly, and I realized how much of a dagger that would be to my parents’ hearts.
Both my dad and mom didn’t say anything and just went to bed. I asked my nuna why she said that, and she said it was something she had to say eventually.

I don’t know anymore. 
Honestly, I’m almost at the end of my 20s, and I’ve never even been abroad. I give 500,000 won ($340) for living expenses at home.

Me too I feel like I should give up on marriage.

1. I don’t think anyone is wrong here. She’s just trying to think realistically and it’s her own life 

2. Your nuna is just being realistic. 

She just got a job and is paying off her loans, but she doen’t have any savings. But your parents are still pushing for her to get married ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ… You’re lucky she’s not gone insane.. 

If the dongsaeng gives 500,000 won to our parents every month, the nuna would probably give them a certain amount too… When are they supposed to save money…? Honestly, if I were in that situation, I’d cut ties with the family 

3. I can’t help but think you guys are just blaming the parents… There are poor parents in the world, and each person adjusts and lives their life based on their environment and values. Should everyone be able to choose and live freely exactly as they want? If someone was born into an environment where they can’t live that way, is it the parents’ fault? Blaming others should be done in moderation, and feelings of relative deprivation should also be kept in check. Even though it was said calmly, there’s a subtle sense of resentment, and it feels really off

4. It’s really saddening to see posts these days that seem to hate poor parents

5. But why do you guys talk to your parents in this way…? Even in the same situation, there are people who get married, so isn’t it ultimately a personal choice?

6. If both parents are in their 50s, they’re not even elderly, so is it normal for them to receive 500,000 won from their 20-something child? That’s only the case if there’s debt or a hopeless situation. No matter what the other family is like, if you’re constantly pouring water into a bottomless pit with no end, it’s better to not get married and live happily on your own. If the parents are asking their child for money with no second thoughts, it shows they’re unconsciously expecting it from their child. If your family is like that, it’s better to cut off ties

7. Honestly in her situation, it’s nonsense to think about marriage

8. I don’t understand the parents: do they think that it’s this easy to get married and have kids while being this ignorant?

9. I’m in the same situation. I don’t want to get married 

10. This is just sad