[theqoo] YOU NEED TO TELL ABOUT PREVIOUSLY LIVING TOGETHER WITH YOUR EX TO YOUR FIANCE VS YOU DON’T

“Should I even talk about cohabiting experience with my groom-to-be?

I’m a bride-to-be who’s gonna get married in October

I’ve been dating my previous boyfriend for 4 years and we’ve been living together 2 years out of the 4

My friends are divided between ‘I should tell him since we are getting married” vs “even men don’t tell their girlfriend about abortion from pr*st*t*t*on so why even tell him?” 

I’m perplexed.”

1. Telling him is the right thing to do. Why hide it?.. You have no shame

2. This is an issue of trust so of course you should tell him

3. Just why? I don’t think you should tell him

4. Just why?… Telling him will make him even more conscious of it

5. I’m gonna have to ask about this to the person I’m about to marry

6. I don’t want to know…. If you don’t tell me at the start, then I’d rather you never tell me

7. If you don’t tell him, it can’t be helped. But once you tell him, you need to prepare for his reaction

8. If independent adults are dating a little more seriously, don’t they come and go from each other’s houses at the level of semi-cohabitation…? So I don’t really care

9. I don’t know but it might not be your secret forever… since the world is so small

10. If he thinks that it’s something important, he would’ve asked you about it already